If I had a daughter, she would be the most precious gift of my
life. If I had a daughter, I would have already found one such gift; in
her mother. If I were blessed with a daughter, I would do everything I
could to protect her. And then, I would do a little more. What I've
learned in this world, in almost three decades, is that this world is a
cut-throat world. I've had my life threatened on numerous occasions,
since I was a child. I'm lucky to be alive today, my life is a gift!
There's no doubt about that. The most important thing I've learnt is
that you can only survive and succeed in this world, if you become
strong. Success means different things to people, to me success is being
alive and healthy and living to see your kids do the same.
If I
had a daughter, truth be told, I would probably be ridiculously soft
with her. I'm an emotional guy and she would figure it out sooner than
later, in her female cunning intelligence. And so, being tough on her -
strict and disciplinarian, would likely be delegated to her mother.
Since I know what the world is like though, I would insist she learn
what I tell her, unfailingly, because her lessons would be the
difference between her making it in life or failing. I have been
defeated many times in my life; the difference is I never stopped going.
And
so, strength would be the hallmark, my part in her upbringing, would be
based on. Strength in intelligence, strength in experience, strength in
wits and strength in emotions. I realize parenting is a ridiculously
tough job but that would be my agenda. I'm sure it is always easier to
think about parenting than it is to practise it. Awesome! If I had a
daughter, I'd constantly tell her I love her... and be the type of
parent, most kids would hate to be around, at school. I would be amazed
by her, by everything she does and everything about her, every day.
Now,
this is my prediction of becoming a dad. It would probably also be the
scariest thing in my life. I would be terrified every day, deep down
inside, because I'd know that I have this unbelievable, incredible gift
in my life,... within this god-forsaken-like place of a planet we call
the world! =) A world in which little girls get fondled by older men,
all the time, every minute around the clock, all across the world. And
that's just part of the psychotic foreplay. I'd wish I could wish to
have all my parents' upbringing skills and would try to become their
listening/obedient son I haven't been particularly known for, to raise
my daughter successfully, through the maze of life and death in the
world. Yeah, that would sound like me!
I once heard the most
important part of a girl's life is her father. Kind of funny when you
think that both parents are actually equally important to a child, but
basically, having a dad makes a world of positive difference to a girl's
life. She gets her balance from her dad; her ability to relate with
males, respectfully; she learns how to balance her natural femininity
and not let all her oestrogen out of control ( I seriously DON'T mean
any offence to females at all! I'm a guy and guys aren't exactly popular
for their communication skills!). She puts all her trust in her father
and expects him to always have her best interest and safety at heart.
This 'naivete', this is a girl simply being a daughter to her dad. A
girl talks to her dad like they're the best friends in the world. She
tells him everything and listens to everything he has to say, in awe and
amazement. She finds him the most interesting man in the world ever and
is forever intrigued by him and his behaviour. A girl is open with her
love for her dad, she gives him big kisses and big hugs. She sleeps in
his arms, plays with him, holds his hand, looks into his eyes, laughs
with him, laughs at him, brushes her teeth with him and whatever else a
girl and her father do in their home.
Millions of girls worldwide
have incomprehensibly regretted these natural forms of behaviour and are
live in a psychologically demented world; a parallel reality that is so
sick and deranged that they cannot make sense of it - because nobody
can. They are broken people, for whom exhibiting the natural ways of
being loving daughters to their fathers, involuntarily initiated them to
having demonic practices and atrocities committed to them: Grotesque
crimes exercised on their bodies in forms of sexual molestation, rape
and the associated psychological maiming. The very innate behaviour that
these girls develop, to grow healthy and balanced emotionally,
victimized them violently to a life of profound anguish and terror. They
are kids JUST LIKE the others. No different! But unlike the
overwhelming majority of girls in general, who grow up normally, these
helpless children end up traumatized, terrified, schizophrenic,
paranoid, insane and/or absolutely tormented, to give you a basic
understanding (or how else would you describe a girl who's experienced
incest?). They physically live in the conscious world with the rest of
us, but our reality obviously doesn't make any sense to them or they
wouldn't be raped as they are. Having started out as normal kids, the
way nature intended them to be, makes no difference. So, they're smashed
into their parallel reality of absolute horror, that's simultaneous to
yet completely disconnected from 'our' reality because they're over
there on their own. All because they are innocent victims of incest and
sexual child abuse. That is a glimpse into the state of mind of a girl
who has been and continues to be raped repetitively by her father. By
the one person, she trusted more than anything in the world!
I
call these acts demonic practices and atrocities committed to them,
simply because - some events are too horrible to be classified as
crimes. When a shop is robbed, that's a crime. When the financial sector
orchestrates a great, global recession, that's a crime. When it gets
away with it, that's a crime. When the leadership of a country refuse to
account for the needs of their people and serve themselves and
powerful, mega-corporations instead, that's also a crime. Although, they
may feel like atrocities to their victims and it's debatable whether or
not their perpetrators are demonic, they're frankly speaking, all
examples of crime. When a girl, however, has all the existing norms of
human existence, completely transgressed through sexual violence by her
inner-most, sacred, trusted and loved circle - her own family, such
events carry an unmistakably far darker essence than e.g. cyber crime or
contract inflation. I only agree with them still being labelled as
crimes, to legally pursue and severely punish the culprits who ruin the
lives of these once bright and hopeful girls. If I had a daughter and
she were raped, I don't even know what I would do myself. I'm probably
blanking it out now, to subconsciously spare myself from entering a
frame of mind that would be unacceptable expressing from, for the
remainder of the article.
Let's go into a perpetrator's mind.
Let's conceptualize a sick, demented, psychotic man who's guilty of
performing sexual crimes on his daughter.
It starts with grooming,
I suppose. But before that, let me take it even further; all the way to
the very beginning: Let's start the frame from when she was born!
OK,
so his wife is in bed with her legs spread, blood everywhere and she's
just given birth. A, breathtakingly beautiful baby girl. The doctor just
passed the wrapped up baby to her dad. The dad, he's over the moon! In
his crazy, latent, mental illness, he stares at his child. Holding her
gently, stroking her tiny face, loving every bit of it. Not going too
far, so as not to give away anything. OK, so then the couple goes home
with the baby. It's the first couple of days and all they can do is pay
attention to her 24/7. Then he takes the time to take care of her. He
changes her diaper, bathes her, cuddles with her, tucks her in her
cradle etc. With ever so much loving care! When the baby's mother isn't
around, he probably fondles her between her legs. Sick, I know! So, then
the child grows up, the years pass by and daddy has gotten really close
to the little girl! They play, fool around and joke loads with each
other. She's like the best friend he never had and he's like the
closest, overall buddy she loves being around of. Friends for life! And
then, it little longer.
It's hard for me to continue this part,
but as they live with each other, family-style, the dad starts to pat
her in places he really shouldn't, a bit more. He stays with her in her
room when she's undressing, more often, even though he knows he probably
shouldn't. But then again, maybe not. He makes her sit on his lap a lot
more, whenever they hang out and watch TV. She's growing up and is
becoming increasingly plunged into a life of paternal perversion on
herself and instinctively cannot figure out how to get out of this
situation, because she instinctively knows something's not right! I
mean, it's not really easy: It's her DAD after all, you know? He perhaps
gets the little voices talking in his head as well, that tell him
everything he's doing is bad, but he doesn't care. Maybe they don't
exist in his head! He's her father, he tells himself. No one has the
right to tell him how to raise his daughter! And so, he just responds
like an everyday sociopath: He acts like nothing ever happened!
Grooming
is a big thing in courting, as a paedophile. He must have been telling
her she's beautiful all the time! He must have put her mother's lipstick
on her and put make up on her and encouraged her take her clothes off,
down to her underwear and walk around the house, in her mother's
stilettos. He must have been shaking his hips in amusement with her,
when teaching her how to walk like a model. Then he told her hot she's
becoming and how she'll make all the boys like her and be someone really
popular in school - despite being a minor. It's called brainwashing. If
the mind is regularly fed something long enough, it starts to believe
it. Where do you think the phrase ' Fake it to make it' comes from? You
keep on listening to it, trying to apply it. It takes about 30 days to
adopt a habit; her dad's been conditioning her since birth! The girl
still loves and trusts her daddy, but she can't make out why she's made
to do these things. And she doesn't feel all that comfortable when he
stays with her in her room, when she undresses, or has a bath. She feels
funny when he even stays with her in the rest room, when she has to
wee-wee. It's been going all her life, but recently it's been becoming a
lot more. She doesn't really tell mommy because, well, let's face it:
She's afraid. She feels guilt even though it's not her fault! Something
bad may happen or she won't know what may happen and doesn't want that
either. She's only 8 years old and in her infant psychology, doesn't
know how to deal with her shame! She feels it, but can't explain what it
is. It just makes her increasingly uncomfortable around her dad now and
she's beginning to suffer... in silence!
One day, it's all ready
to go. This is it! She drops off from the school bus and her dad waits
in the living room for her to walk in. He kisses her and takes off her
school bag and tells her to go to her bathroom to change. She obeys him,
goes into the bathroom, begins to pull off her shirt and BAM! Her dad
bursts in, slams the door and shoves her over the table, holding her
face down as he begins loosening his belt to take off his jeans. She
doesn't know what is all of the sudden happening in the few split
seconds so screams, but he slaps her, over and over again until she
stops out of unbearable pain and just cries instead. He's already
excited and his pants are over his knees. He grabs her rear and tears
her pink and white, butterfly-decorated children pants down and thrusts
himself into her: HARD! He doesn't fit for her underdeveloped
reproductive organ, so he crouches down some more, to her hip level and
then pulls her rear to himself as he clutches onto her hips with
death-grip! She screams! She squeals! She can't believe what's
happening, doesn't know how to make it stop, wants to disappear from the
situation immediately, can't stand the incredibly sharp and
flesh-ripping PAIN that she's experiencing and is thinking at least a
dozen other thoughts at the same time, yet can't do anything about any
of them and knows she has to endure the nightmare and cries even more
realization of that. She's a girl! She's 8 YEARS OLD! She is being raped
by her father, who all her life she thought was the one person who
would always be by her side. The one who would always support her and no
matter what... always give her unconditional love! No she's living out
his dark fantasy. He's ritualizing her to appease his twisted fetishes.
He doesn't care if he's destroying the innocence she's got down there.
He's unconcerned that she feels so tight that he has to thrust violently
and forcefully, to experience her, from the inside. This is his
daughter! He has the right to do whatever he wants to with her, at his
discretion. No one has the right to tell him how to raise his daughter!
It
is in such mentality that much of the world governs its citizens, in
that incest is vaguely defined in legal terms and many crimes thereof
are governmentally swept under the carpet. It is a crime like domestic
violence, that many police authorities around the world feel is a
domestic affair and therefore out of their jurisdiction. The problem
with activists boldly speaking about and against it, like myself, is
that they're often suspected of being paedophiles themselves. I bet some
of you think I'm a deranged man for having walked you through a
grooming and subsequent rape process, myself. Be honest! You won't get
an apology from me though. Why should I apologize for graphically
visualizing one such incest-rape scene when, as you're reading this,
thousands of its kind are happening to some poor girls around the
planet? Oh dear! I'm really sorry for bringing to your awareness the
exact horror a little girl experienced earlier today, from whom she
thought she knew the most... not!
I'm being this provocative to
drive a point home: Now that you've been in someone else's place,
campaign against it! Every... Single... Person... Helps! You can only
control your actions, so what would it be like if a few hundred web
surfers, just like you, decided to campaign against incest and resolved
to keep it at the forefront of their thoughts from now. How many people
would you plan to get involved? How many do you think the couple of
hundred out there would advise to take a stand too? See how many you've
already become? The individual always has more power socially, than the
person is aware of. People can engage more against evil than they think
is possible, especially in this time of the 'shrinking world'
globalization phenomenon through ICTs and the Internet. But it always
has to start with that one person... who thinks (s)he is the only one
who's doing making the decision today - while being completely unaware
of others, doing the same in their own homes!
The really sad part
about incest is that all over the world, it's vaguely written in law.
Perpetrators are thus given universal approval to continue in their
detestable ways, not really having to worry about much. I can only think
of about 5 countries, mostly in western Europe that significantly
punish incest. We're so proud to be of the 21st century; to have become
so modern and moulded into a 'global village'. Yet we can't even bring
ourselves to protect our children from sexual crimes/predatory. What a
great stride. I'm so glad I to be living in this time. We made it out of
the Stone Age; Whoop Whoop! I shouldn't work myself too much about it,
though. With global gender inequality being so horrific and
deeply-embedded across societies, at least it still keeps me in
business! And that's the despicable part of it: That as long as children
get raped by family members and die psychologically from it, people
like me remain in employment! Go figure! I really should get another job
but then who would help all these kids? You don't have to be a believer
to approve it; it's the nature of the beast!
Girls grow up in
very troubling times, these days. Here's a small example: "In Brazil,
incest is considered any kind of sexual interaction between two blood
related humans being. It has no criminal punishment if the involved are
over the age of 14, capable of acting upon their legal rights, and that
consent means that the relationship is absent of any kind of coercion or
fraud. An uncle or aunt is allowed to have a relationship with a nephew
or niece provided that they have a health check. " [Wikipedia.org
contributors (2011). Laws Regarding Incest, Wikipedia.org]
A
number of countries don't even have explicit laws against incest, partly
because courting girl-children is a cultural custom. Just think of all
the under-age, forced marriages going on across developing countries,
most notably Africa and the Middle East. In my country, there's a
governor who got himself of Northern African girl as his wife last year:
The girl is under 13! There was a furore in the media, civil societies
ran amok, and then the dust settled down and in the country, it was back
to business as usual. Like nothing ever happened! But what happens with
that poor girl for the rest of her life, well, she's on her own... with
that old man. THAT is the plight of the girl victimized of paedophilia!
How long will it take before numerous millions of tormented girls,
suffering, crying profusely, screaming to the heavens and repeatedly
breaking down psychologically - ALONE, get anyone/anything to finally
save them at last from their God-forsaken, living nightmare? A year? Two
years? You're right, I was only joking - more like NEVER!
Oops...
am I being too cynical? OK, let me be more POLITICALLY CORRECT: How
about 30 - 40 years? Is that more feasible? Great, we have a consensus
then. What wonderful news because in less than half a century, all acts
of sexual child abuse will be banished forever! It's not really that bad
because a few decades is still better than never. From whose
perspective are we talking here: The political 'humanitarians' or the
(consistently) raped, girl-victims? Because to them, those few decades
might as well be NEVER! Some of them will NEVER make it and would have
died in sexual child abuse. Some of them would have become so
psychologically deep-charred, steam-cooked and fried up, they might as
well will be called dead because they'll have no measure of human
dignity left to live with some quality of life. Some of them would have
committed suicide, taken their own lives, that they so very much
cherished when they were infants, if they had somewhat of a childhood
worth remembering. Some of them, well let's face it, you can never
really truly expel crime from Earth can you? You can never really get
rid of the demonic side of human nature that propels us to do these
dastardly crimes, when they are committed: You know, waging wars; not
responding to famines like the current one in which the number of people
who could die is more than TWICE the amount of Jews who got killed in
the second world war but who cares, landslides, mudslides, monsoons,
floods, droughts etc, particularly in developing countries; you know,
the usual stuff! So, some of these girls would just be taken
'underground', re-married elsewhere perhaps, moved to different
locations, basically just remain in sexual child slavery. Because that's
what it is, there's no other term for it: If an under-age girl is
forced to engage in sexual acts of all documented and undocumented
obscenities and not saved from such existence, AS IS HER HUMAN RIGHT,
her psychology gets cluster-bombed, multiple times repetitively,
throughout each and every single, horrifying, excruciatingly-long, 24
hour sets of the rest of her life. Or how else would you describe a girl
experiencing sexual abuse?
My heart goes out to all girls who go
through incest and other acts of sexual violence. It took a lot for me
to write this article, it wasn't easy - talking about something
involving little humans who haven't made the life experiences yet to
distinguish right from wrong. They experience it but their wrong becomes
a right and their right, wrong! Absolutely wrong! Because nothing they
ever thought that would make a balance and seem acceptable would ever be
carried out such way. On the contrary, everything of their
pre-perceived 'norm' just backlashed in a terrifyingly violent ricochet
of pure insanity; spiralling out of control over pretty much the rest of
their years! Is that a life you wish for them?
If perpetrators of
sexual child abuse, all kinds of it, could in a flash, just rewind to
when they were kids, little boys, then witness an event in which their
mothers were brutally gang-raped, by a horde of despicable, older men,
one after the other, in turns, and the little boys just stood there,
staring their mothers in the eye, while their mothers would keep a brave
face and tell them 'It's OK baby! Everything is going to be fine!' in
writhing pain, and in a moment, they could make all those degenerate
rapists suffer and be harshly punished for their crimes, would they do
it or keep on watching, knowing they'd be seeing themselves in those
deranged, older men and therefore refrain from taking action? Because
every girl suffering from sexual child abuse today is pictured in those
mothers: Someone's MOTHER! She just hasn't grown up to become a woman
yet, if she's lucky.
The ugly nature of global gender inequality affects all in one
way or another and the issues surrounding it are attempted to be
presented here as factually as possible.
5 girls are genitally
mutilated every minute worldwide. Over two thirds of the world's poorest
people are females. Domestic violence is a global pandemic and yet also
one of the most under-reported offences. There are more than three
billion females in the world, all mothers in their own right. Unlike in
many comic strips, this one doesn't have any lead characters; the main
actors are the women illustrated from different walks of life, going
through the vices the world imposes on them every day. The purpose of
Mother Nature is not to offend women but to raise people's awareness
about the rampant gender inequality prevalent in most societies. If
everybody sees and treats women as equals, the real Mother Nature can be
less anxious about planet Earth and gender equality can truly be
achieved.